Life after dating a psychopath
Such outbursts also train the partners to become gradually habituated to acts of violence. They also engage in long-term relationships, however, to gain more lasting control over certain more promising targets.It’s nearly impossible to control strong human beings who have clear boundaries and a healthy self-esteem.Suddenly, the next day they become sweet, doing all those little things they did when you started dating.” The period of sweetness leads the partners of Losers to cling to the relationship in the misguided hope of finding what psychologist Susan Forward calls “the magic key” that will make the psychopath stay nice to them. The psychopath invariably cycles back to his real, nasty self.
You’ll receive gifts, a variety of promises, and be showered with their attention and nice gestures.” Drew Peterson and other dangerous seducers wouldn’t get any partners, much less attractive young women, if they showed their true colors from the very beginning. They deluge their targets with flattery, promises and gifts at the beginning of the relationship.It’s interspersed with increasingly fewer “nice” moments, which trap the victim in her own wishful thinking.As Carver observes, “You hang on, hoping each mean-then-sweet cycle is the last one.This is why psychopaths eventually move from the initial over-the-top flattery to scathing criticism.Once they have secured their chosen partners in their grasp, they put them down to erode their self-esteem.